First published on SOMETIMES abut three years ago.
Today I managed to spend the entire day blogging, with exceptions for hauling the son around and feeding the cats. By “blogging” I mean visiting lots of other bloggers online, trying to get my photos to cooperate, and writing in my blog.
All my writing life I have felt guilty and self-indulgent when I spent time writing for pleasure. Sure, I got paid for it in various venues, and wrote lots as a student, and even sneaked in some time writing short stories or novels that I never finished. I still have four novels floating around aimlessly, with characters and everything. That kind of writing has always been, to me, more of a treat…a sort of stolen pleasure, so to speak.
Not so much that the Writer’s Life is considered glamorous and exciting and adventurous. When I was a girl I had aspirations to be, in no particular order: an…
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yay! This is the first comment I’ve had from you in days… I’ll check the email.
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Found it?
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It is the middle of the night, 2:30 a.m…. and wtf am I doing up? Spinning my wheels! I had to scan some papers to email to the bank and with my new printer/scanner which is different from any other in the world…I took numerous shots at it. I think I sent the woman 8 emails in a row…Sometimes I wonder just how dumb I can be. Ha! Yesterday’s faux pas was taking a photo of my dental crisis…I am getting implants and still healing, thought I had an infection so had to send a photo by email to the dentist, who is god knows where on vacation….so he could see my poor gum and decide if he needed to rprescribe an antibiotic. (I am allergic to almost all antibiotics except the shot of roceferin in the butt.) Good god what a hassle getting a photo of my own mouth! Stupido had just eaten a bagel and had remnants on my front teeth…prompting a reprimand from the dentist and his snippy office girl about hygiene. Well just drank some milk and graham crackers, and now I’m cold. So I’m going to bed for a few hours now. good night…
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Commiserations on your teeth. I’ve been having some issues with mine as well so I know how miserable they can be. Hope you got some sleep after all that! -night-
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I put off the dentist visit because I fully expected him to say I was a lost cause and needed to pull all my teeth. Actually he said I have “good bone structure” and needed relatively little new work. !
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Gah, my dentist never says that to me. 😦
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He never says what? bad news or good news? I have good bones because I drink so much milk maybe.
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Every time I go to the dentist I either have fillings or a root canal treatment. I hate, hate, hate the dentist which makes me my own worst enemy. 😦
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I have insurance through my pension, so I’m getting work done finally…but I said absolutely no in-out falsies, I would not where them…just an old brat, that’s me.
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lmao – we’re a pair of brats then!
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My husband used to say all the time that I was a brat… I get tired of being the “adult” and often stamp my proverbial feet in protest.
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LMAO! I act out my brattishness by playing games and refusing to ‘act my age’!
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cool word, brattishness.
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Have you been commenting on my “other” site, sometimeinwonderland? which I thought I lost last year, but is still active…I had some new followers from there. I’m going to keep the site and go off in another direction with it.
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No, I didn’t even know you had that other site.
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I started it long ago, in fact before mumbletymuse, Sometimes’ mama site. I made a sort of mirror site of it, but kept it because I like the .com name (sometimeinwonderland) and see a future of it with part of my writings, while the other part remains here.
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Ah, I see. In that case it makes sense to keep it.
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The sometimeinwonderland is the .com. The actual name of the blog is “State of Mind.”
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It’s also a Premium site, I seem to be able to afford web sites that languish in lalaland…but tend to ignore more urgent expenses like paying the gas bill.
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Maybe consolidate your sites into just one? Honestly, I can’t afford extra monthly anything, including web hosting so I was horribly depressed yesterday when Tikh Tokh was ‘suspended’. Medium fixed it by this morning. Something about it getting swept up into a spam filter?!? Anyway, every little bit counts! 🙂
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I want the “other” site for my …ahem… more scholarly work. My followers that like my “back in the day ” posts are separate from my poems and my photo pieces, and the most liked thing I ever wrote dealt with cookies, Gingersnaps to be exact. Big hit! 🙂 My own personal favorites among my stuff are either ignored or skipped altogether.
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-sigh- I know exactly what you mean. I rarely write about ‘writing’ because it’s so obvious those posts send people to sleep. Still, I swore I’d follow my passions and that I have done on my blog. 🙂
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Well, I have x–number of posts, more than 500. Not a lot in the cyberspace writers’ world, I admit. Maybe 100 of my (“followers” actually relate and interact with me on a regular basis. Most of them like me or at least tolerate my stuff, a handful hate me and another handful love me… some think I am full of myself.
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For me, my blog is ‘home’ and my regulars are friends. Useless as marketing but who cares? lol
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Yeah, the regulars are faithful. My late BFF (yep) considered everyone that was not an enemy to be a friend. I have enemies, friends, and acquaintances. Then I have special-friends that like me no matter how well they know me…I can count them on my two hands over 80 years, and half of those are either dead 😦 or current online blog or email pals.
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I think I’m probably the same. My close friends are close and precious.
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True friends know all about us and like us anyway.
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I have always been a writer, have had my blog(s) since 2011…and the most popular stuff has been the personal stuff. (wordsmith there.) Only one regular once told me that I should avoid politics (“we know you as a pretty good blogger, you should stick to that in stop trying to be a Historian.” Uh…I am an Historian…:-)
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Sheesh…:( Sadly a lot of social media is about personality and popularity. I was never the ‘it’ girl at school and I’m reasonably sure I won’t become one at 65. 🙂
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Yeah, me too. Several “friends” turned on me because I chose some loser/nobody over them as a friend. Saying “its either me or him/her” with me is counterproductive.
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I wonder where social media will go now. I kind of hope it fades away for a few years. Was getting pretty toxic.
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bah humbug! social media is a scourge on the history of communication of ya ask me
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Practicality is not my strong suite. 🙂
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rofl!
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When I am dead no one will say “she was such a lovely person, baked cookies and reared several children…immaculate homemaker…” bah humbug! unlikely… 🙂
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LMAO! Me neither, except perhaps for my chocolate mousse cake. My one aberration. 😀
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hmmm, I shall have to try that chocolate mousse cake of yours.
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one of my aunts actually called me a “nasty little brat” just because I bit her on the leg. 😉
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YOu didn’t…did you? :D:D
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sure I did…it was expected of me, so I had to live up to my reputation. 😉
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😀 😀 😀
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🙂
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At the party yesterday there was an “almost 3 year old” girl who wins my prize as the “best behaved almost 3-year-old” I have ever seen. Lovely little girl. I kept thinking she has to have her moments, but she was consistently sweet. Suspicious, I know. However, I do think that this generation of young’uns is less “terrible twos” than in the past. Descended from the Indigos…yep.
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lol – my Offspring never went through the terrible twos either. Some kids are just plain wonderful. 🙂
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We never talked babytalk to our kids, or other babies, for that matter. I maintain that children will behave pretty much as we expect them to. Once my friend brought over her little neighbor Beany, who was in her twos, and had a reputation for being a terror. She searched up and down the hallway, and discovered the big toy cabinet in our house. I told her she could play with any toys she wanted, so of course that meant all of the stash! My friend expected to end up picking up all the stuff later, but I said no Beany will pick them up. Long story short, she did…every little item.
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lol – my favourite nephew was the same! I think it’s the consistency with which /we/ express our expectations. If we cave in after 5 minutes of tantrums then they’ll keep pushing to 10 minutes next time because we’ll eventually ‘give in’. Kids aren’t stupid.
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Once my older GGS was whining wile we were waiting at Red Lobster…just that fussy annoying fret! I whispered to him “stop that! Act like you’re at my house.” He stopped.
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-giggles- Nice one. 🙂
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well, I was a kid once, and I know what works and what doesn’t. With GreatGrandma Pat they know whining is fruitless.
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I suspect you’re also fun to be with. 🙂
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That depends on whom you ask. 😉
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my journalist hat just fell in my lap…I suspect foul play may be nagging in the bank/church thing. It doesn’t take much to turn on my conspiracy theorist genes.
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In defense of whining…at times it feels good to just expound. I hate lines, I hate whiners, I hate stupiditiy.
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-grin- the technical term for that is ranting and it’s very cathartic!
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whining and ranting are different to me…whining is when I was following my 98 year old sisterinlaw around the grocery store (me whining, not her.) Ranting is when part of it is in CAPS, virtual or not, and exclamation marks!!! and swearing… 🙂
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The remarkable thing about little Anna was that she did not seem to require one word of reprimand, even a look.
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Bet that’ll change once she hits the teens. 🙂
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perhaps…my (infrequent) observations of that family is that it’s pretty non-whiny. I’ve know the mother, who is a pre-high school friend of my granddaughter’s for decades; she was always my idea of a good kid, as was HER older daughter who is now about 16, and the little one seems to be following. I don’t hear well at gatherings, so tend to keep quiet and observe goings on.
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Maybe they’re just nice kids. 🙂
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Well, that too. Parents that raise whiny, undereducated, uninteresting kids deserve them, in my opinion. 😉
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Amen. 🙂
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Mis-educated is more like it. In some of our southern states the schools teach “intelligent design” and creation instead of any logical Darwin stuff; refuse to have sexual education until high school, then its “abstention.” Don’t do it and you won’t get pregnant. (That works well with teenagers.) They used to make kids pledge promises to remain…uh “pure” until marriage.
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-facepalm- Meanwhile priests are having it off with little kids. How can any sane person reconcile that?
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the southern schools are affected by the evangelicals.. fundimentalists…Baptists, etc. not Catholic church. The bible-freaks…literal words.
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I don’t know any abuser priests personally, but I traveled in Mexico and other areas with priests who were extremely dedicated to the poor and downtrodden.. A few bad apples…as they say.
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well, I try…”she said bravely, feigning humbleness”
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Oooh…humble…:p
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I really am humble. Daughter says that I think I’m smarter than everybody else….nah, just have good instincts and don’t fall for anything until I know it well. Ha…that is true, though.
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It is the first day of Spring…a new Winter Wonderland, bah humbug!
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lmao – what? you don’t like snow?
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It’s not that I don’t like it, it’s just that I’ve had enough for this year. It’s so darn cold, also, and its a slushy wet mess now.
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Ah, the flip side of our summer. I’d give anything for a nice wet autumn day.
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A nice wet autumn day sounds good, but they can keep the sloppy wet snow piles already! Chaos as usual on our political front…lots of bunnies and models and other assorted lovely “victims” of old 45. This is dangerous stuff…
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Yeah, we’re almost getting used to it all. I think that’s what worries me the most. 😦
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over here we have chronic shell-shock, every dam day the first thing on the telly is something about trumpie…his main lawyer quit the other day. Ya know ya are really in bad trouble when yer lawyer dumps ya.
And poor wifey… every day some new woman of ill repute comes out and brags/complains about their sordid affair with 45. These women are former Playboy Bunnies, models, general climbers and assorted strippers and porn stars. In my unbiased opinion he is just a filthy pig that wallowed in some good-looking mud. 🙂
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Yeah. I think the whole world is holding its breath as we all wait for him to be gone. 😦
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Well these disgusting shows about his dalliances with assorted women is disgraceful! I really feel that his wife Melania doesn’t deserve having this aired constantly…no matter what she is his wife. Third wife…but oh well. This was the issue many women had with Hillary Clinton was that she “allowed” her husband to play around. Stupid comment.
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Yeah, and the scandal about Stormy Daniels isn’t going to go away any time soon.
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No, but the thing that infuriates me is that all this T&A colorful rhetoric and titillaiting tales draws 20 million watchers on “60Minutes” alone. But the really really bad stuff trumpie has done to our country is ignored…the “base” could not care less about the Russia thing and the dangers in that fiasco. Worse than the Stormy Daniels thing is the Karen McDoughal…”he said he loved me and I believed it…I thought we would marry someday…he said I remind him of his daughter…” dada dada…..
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OUch, that is horribly sick. 😦 And yes, I agree that it’s all a convenient distraction that paints him as a ‘bad boy’ but not necessarily as a bad president.
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Well, 60% of women are said to believe the women. (Stormy is just the star right now but by far not the only woman.) The HUGE audience that tuned in was composed largely of folks…mostly guys…that just wanted to see what they could see. Stormy was NOT dressed for a stripper routine, disappointing to some. tch tch…
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Hah, sensation seekers. Glad they were disappointed!
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Well I don’t think #45 will be on the list of “great lovers,” but what do I know? I do think though that some of these women are trying to cash in on the big shot creepo POTUS. And why not? All these beautiful models and what-have-you surely didn’t “choose” him because of his charm. yuk…
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Indeed. I guess dollars can cover a multitude of sins.
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I do wonder if Stormy saw the opportunity for Mr.#45-to-be and set up some evidence files. He was SO infamous even years ago…he’s a pig and always has been. His first wife sued him for divorce and won, inspite of his efforts to avoid making her a very very rich woman. Second got a decent settlement too…and I’m sure Melania knows where her bread is buttered.
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I’ll bet Melania is wondering if it was all worth it. 😦
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I think the boy changed the whole game plan…he is 12 now I think. The other kids were raised by their respective mothers, models and showgirl-types.
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Faced with him sitting on a bed with a come-hither look seems less than tempting to me…but on another plane maybe it was just an opportunity Stormy couldn’t pass up. She is not some two-bit stripper, she’s a business woman unsavory business, but…
and the Bunny, Karen…maybe she was a sucker for sweet-talking rake. haha
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-shudder-
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god that is disgusting
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The double standard is just disgusting, sex is so pervasive in every medium even down to commercials.
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‘Sex sells’…as if that’s the only excuse that will ever be needed. 😦
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Oh yeah…definitely…most of the 20 million viewers were looking for some sexy smut…hoping Stormy would wear her “work” clothes and not her businesswoman gear.
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-makes rude noise-
20 million typicals. 😦
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yeah… haha… and who isn’t waiting breathlessly for the possible details of him in his all-together? please…I just had lunch. 🙂
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Oh god…that is a first I don’t ever EVER want to see. 😦
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haha, have you no curiosity madam? me neither
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This is the administration the gunnies are worried about taking their toys away…unlikely but entirely possible IMHO. Just I’m a conspiracy theorist doesn’t mean they aren’t out to get me…
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These kids have my complete and absolute admiration. Instead of letting the fear eat away at them they’re fighting back. I really hope they win!
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Well, it is impressive, and really not surprising. This is a new generation, descendants of the original 1940+ generation of Indigo Children. Of course the whole Indigo thing is hushed here as much as possible, but obvious to proponents. It is said, in fact, that this generation of kids (all over the world) will be the salvation of mankind IF given a chance. Yes I am a left wing liberal nut…and proud of it.
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what email? I found one about Australian aborigines, but it’s not from you, I think…maybe a coincidence?
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I’ve been writing to your yahoo email address? The one starting with wp.
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I think I have too many email addresses. wp.gradmama is my WordPress addy actually.
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Hmm…sorry, can you send my an email so I can see what the full email address is as I’m not sure how I’d use that one.
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sorry, it’s a yahoo.com address. I was being cryptic. 🙂 There is an explanation, albeit weird, I’ll email to you.
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Okay. 🙂
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My crypticness is probably why people have no idea what I’m talking about. 🙂
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I don’t know, you seem to make a lot of sense to me. 😀
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hmmm, that tells us something I guess 🙂
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innerchatter11@g.mail here it is! please email me so I know what addy to use for you. 🙂
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Done! Happy Good Friday if you celebrate it. 🙂
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One of things I hate (my friend says I hate everything) is holidays. All the BS that goes with it…who has the kids when, the unreasonable demand for “getting together over the holidays”…bah humbug. There was a famous movie (old) of two of my sisters pulling hair and punching each other. I have no idea why, I was in Germany. Husband and I used to plan trips to Mexico or Spain over holidays…great fun! They saved the family freeforall for when we got back though.
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uh…pardon my flake-mode. Q: is medium an email platform? Or is medium a blog? Or is medium a web site? ignorance is not bliss 🙂
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Medium is like WordPress in many ways, but it has a bit more of the social media portal to it. No emails though. 🙂
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I like the look of Medium. Yesterday I read an article there about the “deforestation” by our early settlers…terribly misinformed, wrong, and obviously the writer has absolutely no info whatsoever about geography or history. Several commenters pointed that out, but being a new kid on the block I didn’t want to jump in with negative comments.
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I am following Tikh Toch (sp) with my pearl ohio info… I want to find an email discussion so I can tell you what is my motivation. Also I want to chat about publishing, etc.
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Hmm…I wouldn’t do that on Medium. Each comment is classified as a ‘story’ and as such is open to anyone to read.
If the problem with emails is that you’ve got too many to check, how about you make one as Innerscape@gmail.com. It should be available. I’ll make sure to always reply to that email so you’ll know which one to check?
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really? I’m honored! Let’s see if that is available.
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lol – go for it!
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I am going to try Innerchatter@gmail.com see if that works, I hesitate to use your title for my email.
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I’m fine with anything. Just thought if you had lots of them, it might stand out a bit more. 🙂
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I do like the Innerchatter@gmail.com … so far exclusively chatter between you and me. I might also expand to my very small handful that I email…like my son and a few other kids, and my long-term email pal in Virginia.
Trying to resist the temptation to clutter it up with “stuff.” I am using my gmail addresses otherwise…have had for a long time pearlofohio@gmail and just created a new Padrebooks business gmail for my book venues and maybe bills, etc.
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